STOP TRYING TO GET OVER THEM - HERE'S WHAT TO DO INSTEAD

Let’s be real for a second: the advice out there for getting over a breakup? It’s mostly trash.

“Just give it time.”

“Block them and move on.”

“Love yourself more.”

“Go on a date with someone new.”

Cool. Thanks. And while you’re at it, why not tell me to shove crystals in my bra and chant affirmations while crying into my oat milk latte?

Listen, I’m not knocking self-love or solid boundaries. They’re powerful. But if you’ve ever felt like you’ve done all the things and you’re still looping, still hurting, or still thinking about them at 2AM while stalking their stories - this is for you.

Because here’s the truth no one’s talking about:

You don’t need to get over them. You need to get back to you.

What’s Really Going On Energetically

When a relationship ends, the physical separation is the easy part. It’s the energetic entanglement that sticks.

You’ve shared space, emotions, energy, and likely trauma patterns. You weren’t just connected - you were enmeshed.

And unless that energy gets cleared, rebalanced, and recalibrated, your system keeps responding like they’re still in your field. Because on some level… they are.

This is why:

• You randomly feel their emotions.

• You “just know” when they’re about to message you.

• You attract someone new who’s… suspiciously familiar.

Energetic echoes don’t lie.

Why Getting Over Them Doesn’t Work

Trying to “get over someone” usually looks like avoidance disguised as empowerment.

You bypass the pain. You suppress the anger. You slap on spiritual-sounding phrases like “it was meant to be” while secretly blaming yourself for how it ended.

But here's the deal:

Avoidance ≠ healing.

Suppression ≠ sovereignty.

And closure? That comes from within, not from them.

What to Do Instead

Let’s flip the script.

1. Clear the cords—fully (not just cut them)→ Energetic cords are like roots. If you just cut the top, the energy regrows. You’ve got to pull them out completely.

   Depending on the relationship, you might also be dealing with hooks - those sharp little energetic implants that come from control, guilt, manipulation, or co-dependence.

   Cords are mutual. Hooks? Not so much.

   If you’ve been with someone who fed off your energy - think narcissistic traits or emotional vampirism, you likely ended up wide open and drained, like your light got siphoned.

   Clearing these attachments isn’t about revenge or blame. It’s about getting your energy field back. Fully. Truthfully. Fiercely.

2. Reclaim your energy→ You’re not just hurting because they’re gone. You’re hurting because pieces of your energy are still with them. It’s time to call it back. All of it.

3. Reset your frequency→ Every relationship creates an imprint. If you don’t shift it, you’ll attract a new person with the same lessons. Different name, same game. But when you recalibrate? You change the game completely.

4. Let the pain evolve you→ You don’t have to “fix” yourself. You’re not broken. You’re becoming. The pain isn’t here to punish you - it’s here to grow you, upgrade you, and align you with a love that actually matches your truth.

Final Word

Stop trying to “get over them.” That’s not the vibe.

Reclaim your energy. Reset your frequency.

And let your breakup be the beginning - not the breakdown.

You’ve got this. And if you don’t yet? I’ve got you.

Breakup Recovery Is an Energetic Process

So no, you don’t need another listicle of “10 ways to get over your ex.”

You need to reclaim your power, realign your frequency, and close the chapter energetically, not just emotionally.

And when you do? You don’t just heal - you evolve.

Ready for the Real Shift?

If this post cracked something open, imagine what happens when you go all in.

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It’s not just healing. It’s a full-body, soul-deep recalibration. Perfect if you’re ready to stop looping old dynamics and finally feel at home in your own energy—with or without a relationship.

No more fragments. No more stuck stories. Just you, fully back in flow.

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